The Girl Can't Help It!

According to a new study it looks like most Americans have had pre-marital sex, despite our current administration's push towards abstinence until marriage as the norm. This study brings me back to my fundie Christian days in which I, as well as all my friends, made a vow to save myself until marriage. Little did I know, half of my friends were already knocking the boots while we few virgins were taking the vow seriously. To be fair most had already had sex before they became Christians and the average marriage age in the church was in the early twenties.

Later when I found out about all the nookie my Christian friends were having, while I saved myself for marriage I find I'm rather pissed off about the whole thing. I left the church and, at age twenty-three, eventually had sex with another disgruntled former X-ian who was also a virgin. The last seven years I've been systematically making up for lost times and I think at age thirty I'm caught up.

Now my situation was based on a standard that I agreed to uphold, but having abstinence only sex education as the policy for all children and teenagers seems pretty extreme and unfair based on current information. Especially with studies like this that show that pre-material sex is more of the norm. Promoting abstinence seems like grasping the cold dead hand of former ideals of sexuality. If it's dead, let's bury it and teach children how to take care of themselves.