End Of The Year Survey

1. What did you do in 2008 that you'd never done before? I swore off men this year. I needed to focus on my own life. I didn’t date or pursue any fella. I was focusing on no emotional investment, because I find I waste a lot of energy on guys who could totally care less about me. It really helped with the whole life perspective thing.

2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year? Not really, but this year I resolve to commit to finishing my senior project, completing all my math classes and do more yoga and meditation.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Not this year! Next year I’m gonna be an aunt for the first time.

4. Did anyone close to you die? No, and I’m grateful.

5. What countries did you visit? Pretty much stayed in California. Too poor to go anywhere.

6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008? Better focus on things that are important to me.

7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? Of course, the events of November 4th put a little boost in my step.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? Academic achievement – Getting an A on my research paper that I worked really hard on. Personal achievement – I finally let go of a really dysfunctional relationship and I don’t ever plan on going back.

9. What was your biggest failure? This seems like the first year in a long time that I haven’t had any big giant failures…just lots of little failures.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury? Um…no. Sore knees from running, but that’s why I’m gonna do yoga.

11. What was the best thing you bought? My education, which I’m gonna be paying for, for a long time.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration? Those who voted for Obama. They make me proud to be an American.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? The usual suspects. (i.e.: Bush et al.) Those who voted Yes on Prop 8. (There is no good reason for homophobia) That bitch that made my life hell when I worked at the movie theater. (Get a fucking life, asshole, you’re not in high school.}

14. Where did most of your money go? School, coffee, food and gas.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? President elect, Barrack Obama. The upcoming birth of my nephew. My new found focus for my senior project.

16. What song will always remind you of 2008? Lovely Day by Bill Withers and Paper Planes by MIA.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? Much, much happier
b) thinner or fatter? Fatter
c) richer or poorer? About the same

18. What do you wish you'd done more of? I wish I took more classes, so I could be done sooner.

19. What do you wish you'd done less of? Eating unhealthy food and watching so much TV.

20. How will you be spending Christmas? I was at my sister’s place in Santa Barbara. It was nice.

21. Did you fall in love in 2008? Yep, with a certain Mr. Paul Rudd.

22. How many one-night stands? None.

23. What was your favorite TV program? 30 Rock (the Oprah episode is a must see)…and the guiltiest of guilty pleasures, One Tree Hill.

24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year? I don’t hate anyone. Strongly dislike, that’s another story. But no, not really.

25. What was the best book you read? Fiction – Rant by Chuck Palahniuk . Non-Fiction – Bitch: In Praise of Difficult Women by Elizabeth Wurtzel. Poetry – Anne Sexton.

26. What was your greatest musical discovery? M.I.A rocks my world.

27. What did you want and get? Perspective.

28. What did you want and not get? A smaller ass, but there’s always next year.

29. What was your favorite film of this year? I liked Religulous, Milk and (super duper guilty pleasure) Zack and Miri Make a Porno.

30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I went to dinner with my friend Jen and I turned 32.

31.What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? Being done with school, but with the current economy I’m kinda glad to be in the safe embrace of academics.

32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008? Whatever fits my ever expanding hips.

33. What kept you sane? My friends, all those movies with Jen, my mom, coffee, my puppadoodle, Gwennie.

34. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? I fell in love with Paul Rudd, Nathan Fallon’s ass and Jon Stewart (always and forever).

35. What political issue stirred you the most? I actually got into the election. I’ve never been that politically minded, but this year was so damn exciting that I was sucked in. I’m even thinking about becoming an advocate for victim’s rights.

36. Who did you miss? I missed my friend Steve, who I mean to call, but…

37. Who was the best new person you met? Dr. Jen Yaffee

38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008: So many… Rewriting your history is impossible so it’s better to put your energy into moving forward.

39. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year: I can be alone, yeah I can watch the sunset on my own. – Merry Happy by Kate Nash.

I love Google Analytics

My Top Ten Favorite Keyword Searches That Lead People To My Blog Between October 1 and December 23, 2008:

10. "I don't like yogurt"

9. Clearing Bad Energy

8. Does Amy Winehouse Wear Converse

7. Purity Ball Gross

6. Serious Conversation Starters with Girlfriends

5. SUV is Now the Enemy

4. Zach Galifanakis Gives Himself Haircut

3. "Don't Feel Like Dating"

2. Women Fucking YouTube

1. Freeporno Aniemal (exact spelling)

Oh, come on now! part 2

Eww. Icky. Eww. Eww. Eww. (NSFW)

Okay, I was one of those lucky girls who bled (for three days, mind you) after I lost my virginity and there is no way I'd like to "relive" that experience again. In fact, I was really relieved when it was done. I had a feeling it was going to be painful so I put it off; but I really wanted to have, what I considered, a complete sex life. Yes, I've made some bad choices, including my choice of "deflower-er", but nothing would ever make me want to be a virgin again.

And really, any guy who has fantasies about deflowering a girl needs to lock that one up in the vault.


Via Feministing.com

"Doesn't it make more sense to leave the bullets out of the gun, than to avoid being shot?"

In response to Mr Bush's "right of conscience" bullshit, I give you Margaret Cho:




"A Huge Pussy Cyclone! -- Hurricane Poontang!" Preach it, sister.

Oh, come on now!

Seriously? I mean, come on? Seriously? Really?

"The far-reaching regulation cuts off federal funding for any state or local government, hospital, health plan, clinic or other entity that does not accommodate doctors, nurses, pharmacists and other employees who refuse to participate in care they find ethically, morally or religiously objectionable. It was sought by conservative groups, abortion opponents and others to safeguard workers from being fired, disciplined or penalized in other ways...

The 127-page rule, which was issued just in time to take effect in the 30 days before the change in administrations, is the latest that the administration is implementing before President Bush's term ends"

It's not that the content of this measure is shocking considering the current adminsitration's views on choice and religion, but really? It's like that guy who's being kicked out of the bar for starting fights with everyone and seems to be leaving in quiet pitifulness. Then makes an "I fucked your mother" comment and runs.


January 20th can't come soon enough.

I declare this an anti-cynical zone for today

My smooshy little heart is almost overwhelmed by this story about some nuns who really practice what they preach.

A mentally disturbed man came into the convent, killed two sisters and wounded two more. Instead of being bitter and angry, these nuns not only forgave this man and extended this mercy to his family. It's really a great story that I hope boosts your day.

And if everyone could send good energy or if you pray, pray for my friend Becky. She's suffered a great loss and needs some love.

Okay, so I admit it...

...I am the biggest dork ever. I spent my night making little elf versions of me, my friends, Jon Stewart and Paul Rudd. And then made them dance.

For to enjoy:

Country

Send your own ElfYourself eCards

Charleston

Send your own ElfYourself eCards

Disco

Send your own ElfYourself eCards

And Classic

Send your own ElfYourself eCards

Who wants to go to New York with me?

'Cause I kinda want to see You’re Welcome America. A Final Night with George W. Bush:

George W Bush Goes to Broadway by Will Ferrell

Who's with me?

Jewelry Face

This Target: Women video pretty much sums up how I feel about jewelry ads, especially during Christmas when when they practically double. I hate them! In my opinion, Kay's Jewelry's jingle might as well go, "Buy her diamonds, you'll get laid". Ick. (here's a link if the video isn't showing up. It's really funny!!!)



Jewelry's nice. It's shiny and pretty, but any guy I was dating would know that I'm not gonna get all excited over a diamond bracelet that I'll never wear. I'm a practical girl. Get me a book or pajamas or a threesome with Paul Rudd. Then I'll be happy.

Turn that shit up! That's my jam...

Okay, here's the deal. I have to finish a senior project that will satisfy the requirements of a theater degree that I've been working on since, oh well, god was in diapers. I've chosen to write a play which allows a lot of freedom and independence, but it's also easy to put off and my creative juices sometimes aren't flowing. If I had chosen to do an acting or technical project then I could be in a play or design a set. I would have to be on campus and other people would be depending on me. It would be difficult, unpleasant and uncomfortable to procrastinate. And since I'm not passionate about theater it's just easier to put it all on my own shoulders.

Anyways, I had an idea of what I wanted to write about since I decided on this option, so I figured when the time came I would be able to just plow right through it. Well, my original idea was about a person being haunted by a former lover which had changed over the years, namely the old lover became a stranger who was a symbolic representation of the past. Basically, it would've been about a girl who was haunted by her past. To be honest when I developed it I was somewhat broken hearted by a boy and then by my life. All I could think about was my past and all my mistakes, because they were all I had to account for my life.

Now I'm in such a different place and I have no interest in that idea anymore. I finally feel like all that examining of and dwelling on the past is, well, behind me. I'm really ready to move forward. So, I've come up with a new idea for my senior project which has a lot to do with my blog's new name. I'm gonna write four one act plays based on four Liz Phair songs.

You may be asking yourself: Debbye, why Liz Phair? Well, I'll tell ya.

I love her music. I feel connected to it. I think she's never gotten the attention she deserves. She's naughty, rebellious, pissed off, jaded, and funny. Because Exile in Guyville and Whitechocolatespaceegg are two of my favorite albums. Because "fuck and run" was the song of my twenties. Because she writes about women from a woman's point of view. Because Liz Phair is my homegirl and with her help I'm gonna get my shit done.

An interview that skims over her career:


Here's some of her stuff:

Flower (NSFW):


Divorce Song and Help Me, Mary:


Only Son:


fuck and run:


Extraordinary:

It's coming on Christmas, They're cutting down trees...

After seeing this list on Pajiba, I realized that all of my favorite Christmas songs are the really sad, depressing ones. Numbers 6, 5, 3 and 1 are my absolute favorites of all time (Fairytale of New York by the Pogues, Charlie Brown Christmas song, Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas and River, by Joni Mitchell). I remember working at Macy's Department Store and right after Thanksgiving the instore radio played nothing but Christmas music which after a while drove me up the wall. When those happy, peppy songs came on all I could think was, 'Screw Having a Holly, Jolly fucking Christmas, I wanted a river that I could skate away on.' And if I had to hear Paul McCartney's A Wonderful Christmas Time one more time I was gonna pour acid into my ears.

I like the sad Christmas songs because, I guess, they seem more appropriate and relatable. I think some people get sad during the holidays because "the cheer and the happy" can be such a frustrating expectation to live up to. Well, duh. I know that there are people who are happy at Christmas time, but I think they just might be the people who are happy most of the time. And though my life is much better and happier than it used to be, I still relate more to the melancholic than the jubilant side of Christmas. It's a lot to expect people to be so damn happy maybe that's why we get so excited about cheap flat screen TVs.

But, the truth is that I love Christmas time, but more like the Scrooged kind. The Christmas season as a catalyst for human kindness, charity, forgiveness, and love:



Makes me weepy every time. Every time.

Some news...

I changed the name of my blog to something I think reflects my life a little better. I'm still a work in progress, but I feel like Phase One has been completed. Plus I love me some Liz Phair.

Anyhoo, I also got a hair cut (I have bangs!):



I feel very cute. I haven't cut my hair in over a year so I think I was due. I even bought some beauty supplies.

For my Saturday Super Site (hey it's still 11:21 PM here in Cali): Caustic Cover Critic. Basically it's a guy critiquing book covers. What can I say, I'm a big book nerd. This stuff amuses me.

This just in!

Take a gander at Nathon Fillion's sweet ass!





More at 10.

"I ain't one of the Cosby's I ain't go to Hill man"

I really like Kanye West. I his music kicks ass. I love how cocky and full of himself he is...like a kindred spirit...

I also love Zach Galifianakis. Love, love, love the Galifianakis.

Well, here's a video that's like mixing chocolate and peanut butter: Zach Galifianakis lip-syncs to Kanye's song, "Can't Tell Me Nothin". For to enjoy: